I talk to myself. There, I said it! It took me a long time to have no problem with it. As a child, I'd remember hearing my Mom speaking, thinking it was to me. I'd walk in and ask her what she said. She'd say she didn't say anything >> I knew I wasn't crazy, but I thought maybe she was. As I got older, and became more isolated, I started talking to myself without even knowing it. I thought the crazy gene had been passed to me, especially after I found out that my grandmother on my mother's side talked to herself too. That made it easier for me to accept, but still not to be seen by others.
I don't know how many times I've been caught talking to myself, like how I use to catch my mother. I grew up an only child except when I lived with family at times. So I was my own best friend for many years [I know, the characteristics of a psychopath] But Me, Myself & I would talk girls, sports, music, school, friends, everything [I have a personal top 5 list for almost everything]... & the older I got, the more mature the content. Especially when I was smoking weed. I could talk to myself for hours. I eventually came to find out that it was an excellent way for me to work out internal issues, thoughts and insight to myself. It was a good way for me to wok out problems that had been running rampant in my mind. Most of the information I processed to myself would be kept in strict confidence with... myself. Other times my talking to myself would be a mental preparation for a real conversation or argument. Once I learned to harness the power, I felt as though the limit was the sky ,,, & of course my own knowledge. So I had to learn more. Sucks to lose an argument to myself Lol... {plus I stutter, but that's for another blog}
I say all that to say... How can I say this nicely [I'm asking myself, not you]? People say the dumbest sh!t that comes to their mind without thinking about it first! It's like most of us are in a race to out-talk one another. So many people stand in front of someone else talking just long enough to gather their own words and think of something else to say just for the sake of talking or sounding intelligent. It seems to be hard for many of us to STFU! My step-father taught me one thing I still use to this day [among many] --- To ask a person if they want your opinion. Ask a person if they wanna hear your 2 cents or just shut up and listen. Sometimes I'd just talk to him and he'd allow me to vent [a personal psychologist].
It came to mind in one of my talks with myself: As a baby, we learn to speak from who we're around and pick up their habits. We learn to walk, eat, associate, and communicate all through our years as a baby, toddler, and infant running around on the house carpet. Throughout our youth we continually learn our communication skills through our surroundings on that same carpet we learned to walk on. We have our pre-teen years and then our teens years. We have our young adulthood either with our parents or on our own but either way we're still learning. But at some point, we often come to the conclusion that we don't need to learn anymore. Yeah, we may learn more about our jobs so we can be a good employee or earn more money, but a lot of times not for the sake of learning. We learn a certain amount and think we have life figured out. We believe our minute knowledge is the end all- be all for us to learn. Any other lessons we learn is from the mistakes or travels of life.
I have many people I know, or have known; and I read on Facebook often about someone who says "I don't hold my tongue for anyone" proudly. There is a time and place for everything. A time to tell whats on our mind. A time to let out frustrations. A time to tell someone what you think of them, no matter the effect on their feelings. And also a time to STFU!
I have read a few books and mostly the Bible that refers to the following: The Tongue is one of the smallest body parts we have. Yet, it is the source of so many of our problems because we often can't control it.
*I love the old saying, We have two ears to listen twice as much as we speak! It's just a shame that a lot of us don't use our natural physical features to determine how we should be...
But that's only what my 6th SENSE is telling me
